Take a breath.
Calm your mind.
Do not ask Why?
But Why Not?
It's amazing how things come together when you're Mindful....and patient.
After spending five years joining my daughter in learning the violin along with a full dance schedule and many other activities, we had hit our breaking point. Music is supposed to be joyful and fun; however, we were often stressed, frustrated, and overwhelmed on so many levels...and then we'd hit a high on concert days. When I decided to choose sanity and simplify to a "one main activity" family, my daughter chose dance over the violin. Wow...decision made...now where's my "simplification high?" Why do I feel so heavy and sad when I am relieved to be free on so many levels?
Simplifying is a process of letting go and letting go of anything that we've invested in, are proud of, built relationship around, and value is hard. With this recent step to simplify, I'm choosing to let go of the type of relationship and not my relationship. I will never let go of the Burlington Chamber Orchestra concerts, the friends we've made on our journey, the teachings, and the memories we hold. Embracing the new relationship and the grieving process will hopefully lead to the "simplification high" very soon...PLEASE, I can't take it anymore! All the best to you on your "simplification journey," and I wish you many highs! Namaste, Tricia
The funny thing about difficult conversations is that each time we avoid having them we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to master the skill of navigating difficult conversations. As I reflect upon (and recuperate from!) my difficult conversations yesterday, I feel a deep sadness for the pain we endured within the situation we shared. At the same time I feel such joy for the conversation, our courage, our voices, our passion, and our integrity. We struggled to hold onto what was true to us, and we opened to support and understanding from each other. We didn't always agree. We weren't always clear. We couldn't always contain our frustration. We did, however, maintain respect for each other and the process. Although I often hear my father's words, "Nobody said that life was easy," I truly believe that our conversations and relationships don't need to be a constant struggle. We navigate difficult conversations by dancing through the various stages together with compassion and understanding. Although my daughter and I were both exhausted, I am grateful that we ended our day more deeply in love.
TAKE ON THE CHALLENGE!
For the next 48 hours see if you can pay attention to your body language as you navigate your two days. Notice your posture, your facial expressions, your hand movements, how others react to you, and how your conversations and relationships play out. What do you notice? Are others giving you feedback? Is it positive or negative? Most kids are especially perceptive and sensitive to body language so they can be your best teachers. What can you learn?
Yoga and meditation are wonderful practices to help you stay grounded in your body and Mindful throughout your days. I know that I am a lot more poised and less reactive in my body on days that I do yoga in the morning. Have FUN!
If we were all more aware of our conversations, how would our lives be different? Click on the link below. You will not regret spending 12 minutes of your time listening to this invaluable TED talk.
Tricia is a communication & wellness consultant.